You Want Your Privacy? Didn't I Just See You On Facebook Tellin All Your Business?

I'm not big on social media. I'm not on Black Planet, I don't have any YouTube videos, My Facebook page is less than 2 years old. And I have no clue what a Twitter is. I don't think that Smart Phones are all that 'Smart', and I really don't get why everyone feels the need to always 'Check-In'.

But what I do think is so ironic to the point of being absurd are the people who, probably right now, are tweeting, posting, texting etc. to THE WORLD about how they are owed their right to privacy after they either get fired for some stupid comment they posted on Facebook (that they never should have in the first place), after some scandalous pictures of them get seen by everyone in their church (do I really have to comment on the lack of judgement here? How was they ever in the position to have the picture taken in the first place), or after they have been arrested for doing some stupid crap they chose to video tape and post on YouTube.

What! Are you serious? We are not talking about a lack of privacy, we are talking about a total lack of just plain Common Sense!!

When a job application is accompanied by a consent to Social Media Background Check, When most, if not all by now, of the major police departments in the country have their own Facebook page, When Presidential 'Town Hall' meetings are held via social media, why is it so difficult to comprehend that YOU are responsible for everything you put out there in cyberspace. And rightfully so. I believe everyone should be held accountable for their own stupidity.

Not only has social media been the cause of the death of more than one child (because the mothers were too busy 'posting' on Facebook rather than watch their children), but there are even some high school teachers teaching classes via Twitter.

Are people really that ignorant enough to believe that Big Brother is not watching EVERY post, blog, tweet, re-tweet (what ever the hell that is), check-in, status update, YouTube video, etc.?

Or do people REALLY think that delete actually DELETES anything!

8 Crucial Things To Do After You or Someone You Know Has Been Raped

It is an ugly subject with even uglier statistics

• 44% of victims are under age 18
• 80% are under age 30
• Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted
• In 2007, there were 248,300 victims of sexual assault
• 60% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police
• 15 of 16 rapists will never spend a day in jail
• Approximately 2/3 of assaults are committed by someone known to the victim
• 38% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance

1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime
17.7 million American women have been victims of attempted or completed rape.
While about 80% of all victims are white, minorities are somewhat more likely to be attacked.

Lifetime rate of rape /attempted rape for women by race:

• All women: 17.6%
• White women: 17.7%
• Black women: 18.8%
• Asian Pacific Islander women: 6.8%
• American Indian/Alaskan women: 34.1%
• Mixed race women: 24.4%

 As a rape survivor and sexual molestation survivor, I encourage everybody, women and men, to read the below information courtesy of Cosmopolitan.com. Many, if not everybody, either knows someone who was a victim (whether you know it or not) or was a victim themselves of some form of sexual assault.

8 Crucial Things To Do After You or Someone You Know Has Been Raped

No one expects to be in the position of dealing with the aftermath of an attack, so here’s what you need to know.

-Find a safe location away from the perpetrator. Ask a close friend to be with you for support.

-If you are still in the location where you were raped (for example, if it happened in your apartment or dorm room), don’t clean, straighten up, or remove anything.

-Report the crime to law enforcement, campus police, or a trusted school administrator.

-Don’t take a shower, wash your hands, brush your teeth, eat, or smoke.

-Preserve all evidence of the attack—don’t wash your clothing or sheets, etc.

-Write down all the details you can recall about the attack and the perpetrator.

-Even if you don’t feel up to it, go to the hospital. Once there, tell the doctor or nurse what happened and ask for STD tests and the morning after pill (if you’re not on birth control). Request a rape kit so that you’ll have biological proof of the attack. (Rape kits must be administered within 72 hours of the assault, and the sooner you get one done the better.) If you think you might have been drugged, ask for a urine sample to preserve evidence. To find a local hospital or healthcare facility that is equipped to collect forensic material, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE.

-If your school hasn’t protected your rights after a rape, contact Security on Campus at securityoncampus.org or the Victim Rights Law Center, a national organization that provides free legal services to sexual assault victims, at (617) 399-6720.

For free, completely confidential support and advice about anything, you can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline 24/7 by calling 800.656.HOPE or IM-ing anonymously with a staffer from RAINN (The Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) at online.rainn.org.

Self Love

Maneater=Self Love
 (courtesy of ManeatersBlog.com)

We’ve all been hurt, discouraged, let down by one or more people in lives. It’s no coincidence that the ones we love the most hurt us, we trust them, give them access to our hearts, leaving us vulnerable. This is unavoidable-especially in romantic relationships. That is why it is so important to learn to truly love yourself, not as a defense against getting hurt, because no matter how much you love yourself you can still be hurt by others, but when you truly love yourself you learn and grow from those let downs.

The term Man-Eater means a lot of different things to many, but for me it means self-love. Yes in a relationship sense, I am saying down with boys and up with girls-but that is only because my audience is mostly women. And my passion is for women who don’t know how to first love themselves and who put their love interest before themselves. I write for the women who have been hurt, and have never recovered. The women who don’t realize that there is a difference between loving someone in a healthy way and giving too much of yourself to someone who doesn’t value you.

We all know that we are not perfect, we are flawed. Is this just another message about loving your flaws? Well, maybe but I’m willing to go as far to say that those “flaws” are relative and what someone views as a flaw in you, another may see as your great asset. Just because one man doesn’t like something about you doesn’t mean you should work to change it, you should only work to change the things about yourself that YOU don’t like or think you want to improve.

I am absolutely in love with me, and have no problem attracting men, moving on from bad relationships, or being exactly who I am no matter who doesn’t like it. But I wasn’t always this way, I once was just like the women I strive to reach on a daily basis. I didn’t know the power I held within. I didn’t realize I had the power to create my life, and choose how I wanted to be treated. YOU have the power. We as females have to learn how to take it back, or perhaps you never lost it and in that case learn to hold on to it.

I am a Man-Eater. I love Me . Girl Power.

Xo Maneater