The TRUTH Shall Set You Free!

Part 3 - The TRUTH Shall Set You Free! The Meaning Behind 'Does Anyone Else See The Big Ass Elephant In The Room?'

(Read Part 1 - Real People Don't Hide Behind Masks! The Meaning Behind 'It May Not Be Pretty But It's Mine!')

(Read Part 2 - Life Without The Rose Colored Glasses! The Meaning Behind 'GingerSnaps And VODKA')

As I indicated in the previous reads, 'Part 1- Real People Don't Hide Behind Masks! The Meaning Behind 'It May Not Be Pretty But It's Mine!'' - a blog about the 'Me' on the inside; 'Part 2 - Life Without The Rose Colored Glasses! The Meaning Behind 'GingerSnaps And VODKA'' - a blog about the experiences of life and the ups and downs of our day's and night's; 'Does Anyone Else See The Big Ass Elephant In The Room?' is a blog designed to shine the light to those 'issues' everyone knows exist but try to ignore because they don't want to talk about it.

Again, none of my blogs are ethnic, gender, or lifestyle specific. I will shine the light on issues that may may concern some, and issues that may concern us all. The importance is that a dialog be started because an issue that effects some, is an issue that effects all.

We, as a race of people, are wanting, in fact, expecting change. A progression from our historical past. But, we are all looking to the person beside us to make that change happen! We are all blaming the person behind us for the inadequacies.

We all need to take a long, hard, honest look at ourselves. OUR skeletons in the closet. Those issues WE are trying to avoid. The problems WE don't want to admit. And the history WE don't want to acknowledge, or remember.

We as a people must live, breathe , and exist in this world together. That is a fact that will not change. So, we may as well uncover our scars so that we may begin to heal. We will never be able to break down the cement wall we keep running into, unless we acknowledge, discuss, and work through the very issues that erected the cement wall in the first place.

We will never be able to move forward, if we continue to be chained to our past!
We can not expect others to help us, if we continue to ignore the cries for help of others!

We need to begin to heal our families.
We need to begin to heal our communities.
We need to begin to heal ourselves.

Stop ignoring the big ass elephant in the room and start talking to one another.

Read Part 1 - Real People Don't Hide Behind Masks! The Meaning Behind 'It May Not Be Pretty But It's Mine!'

Read Part 2 - Life Without The Rose Colored Glasses! The Meaning Behind 'GingerSnaps And VODKA'

If I Let Him Lead, HE WILL (Part of the Converting Me - Road to Redemption series)

I am a very quiet person. I am not outwardly affectionate, emotionally 'available', or easily approachable. A conversation with my husband today made me realize just how true that is.

We don't have the best communication between us. Neither of us seems to be able to get what we are really feeling across to the other person. But today I actually heard him. I didn't just hear him talking, I actually heard him.

I am not making him feel like I love him. Like I want to be here. Like I want him. I think I do, but he is not feeling that.

The only way I know how to show love is by being here. I figure if I'm still here, he should know I love him. That's not okay. Instead of feeling like being here is my sacrifice that should prove my love, I need to focus on showing him that despite the trials we go through, that being here, being in his life, him being in mine, is a blessing.

I always feel like I am taking on more than my husband. But if i ask myself why, the truth is I don't let him take take on more. I don't let him take on anything because I feel like I am showing that I cant take on everything. Like it is a sign of weakness.

Instead what I am really doing is not letting a man be a man. I'm not allowing my husband to head the household.

Now, I am not saying that I believe in the idea that a wife should be seen and not heard, and the husband calls all the shots. That is SO far from what I believe.

But, I do believe a man should be treated as a MAN. The man should play a major role in the house. The man should be allowed to lead his family and head his household.

I need to love him enough to let him LEAD me, not always have to follow MY lead

Why Don't You Ever Talk To Me?

Usually, in many relationships of people I know, women are constantly asking their husbands or partners 'Why don't you ever talk to me?'. Well, in my marriage, that question is usually asked OF ME.

Admittedly, I don't communicate, I don't know how. At least not the communication my husband wants. I really don't feel comfortable talking emotionally, and I am very private. Unfortunately, I am private even when it comes to my husband.

Well today is my turning point. After an argument which reached an all time high yesterday, I realized that my lack of communication is really an issue. I honestly, never assumed that it would be an issue because, after all, how many women have a partner who WANTS to 'talk'.

So, I'm really starting from square one with this. In an effort to do as I promised myself with my new 'blogging' venture... my journey to learn how to communicate with my husband will be a shared journey. 

Feedback is not only wanted, its needed! Advice is not only suggested, its needed!

Follow my journey in Road to Redemption.